Soon parents will be receiving their student’s report cards. There will be lots of different conversations at home ranging from happy to sad depending on what is in the report card. Here are some suggestions on how to have a good report card conversation with your child.
Don’t overdo praise. Sometimes , especially for boys, it can make kids feel uneasy. It can feel like too much pressure and end up backfiring. Look to see if they are accepting the praise, find a good balance.
Focus on hard work, not intelligence. When we praise intelligence, academic performance tends to decrease. When we praise hard work, performance increases. This is because intelligence is something we are born with and hard work is something children can control. They will strive to do better if you focus on hard work.
Focus on both positive and negative. There is usually at least one grade that can be praised. Start with positive and then look at the other.
Don’t lose you temper. If we lose our temper it tends to backfire. Instead of focusing on what they need to do to get better grades, our kids focus on the anger. It might motivate them for a short time to get better grades, but not in the long run.
Make a plan. If your child struggled with learning or behavior last quarter, talk about the problems and come up with a plan. If they improve next quarter make sure to celebrate.